Ladies, how would it feel to actually have a man who would forever just commit to you so that you don’t have to worry ever again whether he’s going to ever leave you or not? That man that you can feel so secure with. And this is the thing, you can! But some of it is actually up to you.
I know that we live in a very harsh dating climate today where men have become spoiled and are much less loyal than back in the days.
I do believe that one of the reasons is because there is such an abundance of women for them than before.
Women are more accessible to men than ever before. And especially with online dating, they can now just download a app, swipe left, right and center, and voila, a woman is there waiting, ready to replace you.
However, ladies, this doesn’t mean that just because us females are more monogamous, that we cannot achieve such a relationship and we have to settle for loose strings attached, or no strings attached relationship.
Now there are ways on how you can become that woman that men simply find too irresistible to leave. And ladies, I’m going to share these secrets with you right now. So here we go.
5 Ways You Can Be So Irresistible He’ll Never Want To Leave
1. Set Boundaries
We all know that men should be respecting us. But ladies, my question to you is, how do you actually get that respect?
And I’m serious. What do you do in your everyday life to earn that respect? Or let’s put it like this, why is the man still not waltzing around your feet treating you like a queen?
Now let me give you some tough love. You do not know how to demand real respect. We all know that we should be respected, but we don’t really know how to truly get it.
The answer, however, is very easy. Like, it’s ridiculously easy, yet not many women seem to be doing this. I’m talking about the boundaries, setting boundaries.
When you set boundaries, you communicate a message that tells the world how you expect to be treated.
Most women have weak boundaries because we are brought up, unfortunately, in a society that doesn’t teach women how to truly step into our own power.
Instead, we give power to all of our insecurities and to people-pleasing, and actually also to all these false beliefs about our own worth.
I would say probably the majority of women do not feel a hundred percent worthy, or at least not worthy enough.
Because when we feel worthy, we know that no man should be ever disrespecting us or treating us poorly.
We know that we deserve love and we deserve kindness, and we really deserve to be treated like a goddess.
And when you send out that energy, guess what happens then? That’s the treatment you’re going to get. That’s how people, men and women included, are going to treat you.
Believe it or not, there is no faster way of raising your own value in people’s eyes than just by the simple word: boundaries.
And that’s exactly what makes a woman a high-value woman. She’s not afraid of demanding respect and setting boundaries.
It’s really important to be that woman who, first of all, lives with self-respect. The one who sees herself highly and demands to be treated in this way.
And ladies, just do not confuse this with being a narcissist, because that’s totally different. Yes, there are people who are taking this way too far and become truly narcissistic.
But what I’m talking about is the feeling of worth, respecting yourself and really seeing highly of yourself.
Because when you treat yourself with respect, what happens? Other people will treat you with respect.
A high-value woman is not desperate. Not desperate for love, not desperate for attention, not desperate to have a man around even if he treats her horribly.
Please let your new year’s resolution be to let go of all those men who do not treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
But most importantly, start communicating your worth to yourself. Because as soon as you start treating yourself differently, other people will adapt.
2. Allow Him To Be Vulnerable
Surely, women find it easier to express emotions than men, but this doesn’t mean that men don’t have any or should never show any emotions.
From my experience, and from what I’ve seen, those men who tend to attach the most to a woman are the ones who feel that they can really be vulnerable with her, and she will not judge them whenever they show their weaknesses.
Maybe it sounds a bit corny to some, but I really do think that if you create a space in your relationship that allows the man to really talk about his feelings and the things that burden him—and when a man has these experiences with a woman, he tends to value this type of relationship much higher; more than the kind of hot one-night stands.
And the reason is simple, ladies: it is harder for men to connect to this side of themselves because many men feel very easily judged as soon as they show weakness.
So, if a man has a woman by his side who is incredibly supportive in this process, who doesn’t judge or make fun of him—he will open up to her in a way that won’t make him want to leave her anytime soon.
Because he simply doesn’t have many people in his life with whom he can have these moments.
And trust me, all men need to express these emotions and have these moments, but not everybody allows themselves to do so. So, make sure your man can do that with you, if you want to be so irresistible he’ll never want to leave.
3. Get Rid of Insecurities
Guess what causes the most drama in a relationship? Well, besides miscommunication, of course, ladies, that is insecurities.
A man starts absolutely, one hundred percent, fantasizing about leaving a relationship when all he has in the relationship is drama.
Having a girlfriend who is so worried that he’s going to leave her that she starts creating all this drama in her head—all this paranoia takes over her, and she just picks fights all the time, or, maybe she’s jealous or does stupid things.
And well, actually, who knows where insecurities might come from? Maybe it’s a lack of self-esteem, or maybe the person has had traumas, or who knows? Maybe you are so used to men being jerks to you that you’re just looking for signs that your man is a jerk, too.
Well, ladies, guess what’s going to happen? That man gets so fed up, he actually ends up leaving you—not because he was a jerk, but because you drove him mad.
Now, let me be honest, ladies: just because we are women doesn’t mean we’re perfect. I know that the most common imperfection is called insecurity in a woman, and it’s also a big relationship killer.
So, how do you cure insecurities ? My method for curing my own insecurities has always been therapy and awareness; that’s where the healing process starts.
If you cannot afford therapy, at least start becoming aware of your insecurities. Start recognizing them when they happen. And when they happen, start questioning them: Is this just an illusion in me, or is this really real?
The most important thing is that you become aware of them because, truly, that’s the only way to heal.
4. Get a Life
Yes, ladies, you heard me right. I am serious. Please, get a life. I don’t want you to only exist because of a man.
I don’t want you to hang around the phone all day, waiting for him to call. I don’t want you to obsess about him all day long. So, please, get a life.
You see, what happens is that the moment you get a life, the moment the man feels that he needs to earn your time, earn your love, earn your affection, he starts liking it.
His mind is wired to thrive on challenges because, how else would he be genetically wired to go hunt and win on the battlefield? That’s the men’s game; they love challenges.
We all know that we shouldn’t be available to him all the time, because then he will not value the moments when you are actually available and the time that you give to him.
And when I say “get a life,” I’m not just saying, “Okay, go start working and just think about your career 24/7.”
No, of course not. I’m talking about Maybe you can also step into your femininity by being busy with feminine activities, like nesting your home, creative activities, or maybe some hobbies, too.
Not every woman has to become a CEO if they don’t want to; that does not define a woman as successful or as having a life.
What I am saying is: do not just sit on the couch all day long, watching the Kardashians, and wait for the guy to call.
You are not going to be very interesting to him in the long run this way. And when the interest disappears, that’s when he wants to leave. So, for that reason, ladies, get a life.
5. Nurture Him
You see, the female capacity for nurture is truly worth billions to a man. Us ladies, we can easily persuade a man with our femininity, our love, and our care.
And this is a powerful tool and it’s how he gets hooked on to a woman—by getting that affection, that love, and care that he cannot just get anywhere.
Yes, he can go and have a one-night stand, but what he gets with you is different; it’s more special, it’s more real, and that’s why being nurturing is important.
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