In today’s post, I will be sharing questions to ask your spouse in the paragraphs below. Do you often sit back to remember what it was like when you first met your mate? What was your conversation like?
I still remember mine vividly. We met for the first time in a restaurant, and “hello beautiful” was the first word that came out of his mouth; even though I was engrossed in my launch and phone, those words caught my mind, and I lifted my face and locked eyes with him; this was the beginning of one of the conversations.
I used to be an introvert, and rather than approach people for discussions, I’d rather wait for people to start conversations with me. Even worse, in gatherings, I would listen to everything said and not say a word. It spilled into my relationships with relatives and friends, but meeting my mate changed things.
I observed I became comfortable engaging in talks with him. In getting to know each other, we took turns during dates to alternate our questions. We would begin by saying, “I’m the head of the heart talk today and will be asking you questions to get to know you better and also spice things up between us.”
We always say there are no rules to love, dating, and relationships. You only need to scout for what works for you.
To begin a conversation with your mate, there are a few things to keep in mind, and they should encompass your mood and that of your partner. You both should be in a good mood, and when either of you is not sending out positive vibes, in that given situation, you should be cautious to know the kind of questions to ask.
Remember, you are both lovers now and have an existing bond between you two. Therefore, asking questions should come without restraint as you want to know your partner better. See how they respond and react to things and have an idea of their opinions concerning specific life issues.
Engaging in conversations with your partner should go below the surface and run deep to get into their hearts. Don’t stand reserved during discussions, be a participant, let it be engaging, a forth and back dialogue where you both get up, close and personal.
To help you get there, we will be looking at questions to ask your spouse to spice things up below. After a series of detailed research and” peep” into my journal in my dating years, I’ve come up with a set of questions to ask your spouse.
We will be starting with a few questions to ask your spouse, be it a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Conversations should come naturally, not just because you want to voice things up. It could help to journal some of your thoughts and be prepared for conversation time with your partner.
- How was growing up like for you?
- Did you get along with your siblings?
- Was there any time you had reunions and family talks where you all gathered with extended family members to catch some fun?
- What is your life ambition?
- Who is your longest-time friend you are most proud of?
- Are you an extrovert or an introvert?
- Do you have any childhood memories you are willing to share?
- Are you a good cook or good at cooking?
- Do you love listening to music?
- What is your favorite genre: blues, classic, rock and roll, or pop?
- Do you like pets?
- Do you love your present job?
- How well do you get along with your colleagues at work?
- Your favorite day of the week is?
- What are your favorite hobbies?
- How do you untwine when less busy?
- What will you not be seen wearing?
- Do you find it effortless to make friends and build relationships?
- Where do you see yourself two years from now?
- What motivates you in life?
- How do you cope with having a bad day?
- What are your mornings on weekends like?
- What would you trade with, If money wasn’t legal tender?
- Would you love to have the same type of family you grew up in?
- What is one lesson life has taught you?
- What are your values as an individual?
The questions above bother on common questions to get to know your girlfriend or boyfriend, who they have been with, and where they are coming from. Their childhood ordeal has an excellent role in your coming together. The following questions to ask your spouse will be more intimate. This bothers on dreams, life goals, intimate life, and family.
- Have you ever had a crush on someone?
- Have you ever experienced heartbreak?
- How many relationships have you been in?
- What’s your opinion about getting intimate before marriage?
- What’s your take on gay relationships?
- Are you still friends with any of your exes?
- What regrets do you have in life?
- What are your thoughts on cheating?
- Is lying to your partner okay?
- What gets you turned on?
- What pet name did your exes call by?
- What’s the number of kids you would like to have?
- Do you love a saving culture?
- Are you in debt as an individual?
- Do you have any addictions, and what are they?
- Have you cheated on your lover before?
- Are you a jealous lover?
- What is your opinion about love?
- What was your first kiss like?
- What do you find attractive to members of the opposite gender?
- What made you attracted to me?
- Do you have any souvenirs from your past relationships?
- How would you describe romance?
- How can we spark things up between us?
- How do you react when upset?
- Have you ever engaged in a menage a trois?
- What’s your opinion on adult films?
- What Tv shows do you love watching the most?
We are taken things a bit deeper. It has all been about getting to know your lover better. So let’s take a look at further questions to ask your spouse.
- Would you say you see yourself as being competitive?
- How do you express yourself when angry?
- What’s your opinion on domestic violence?
- What do you think a woman needs are and vice versa?
- Do you have any fears about your future, and what is it?
- At your happiest moments, what do you do?
- If you caught me cheating, how would you deal with the situation?
- Do you love everything about yourself?
- Are you a loner?
- If you could turn the hands of time back, what would you change?
- Are you adventurous?
As relationships blossom, boundaries begin to get crossed, and they give room for deep questioning beyond plane talks. Of course, these questions below shouldn’t be asked to your lover at the beginning of the relationship, but as it progresses, you should feel at ease with your mate. Perhaps when you have gotten to a point where the time seems fitting, then the following questions to ask your spouse below can be asked. you can also click here to read a detailed post on sane things to do when your boundaries are being crossed in your relationship.
- Do you self-pleasure?
- Have you been intimate with someone without protection?
- Have you ever gotten attracted to anyone who is married?
- Are you still a virgin?
- Is our relationship an open one?
- What thing you’ve ever done in bed you would say is the craziest?
- What’s your favorite coition position?
- Your most sensitive body part is?
- Do you enjoy coition?
- Have you engaged in oral coition?
- What’s your take on anal coition?
- Have you used a coition toy before?
- Do you quickly get angry?
- Do you easily cry?
- Can you cope with a spouse who is cheating?
- What’s your favorite color?
- Do you know how to swim?
- Can you take a bullet for me?
- Are you an alcoholic?
- What is the most embarrassing moment in your life?
- How do you deal with gossip?
- How would you rate your coition life?
- Can a relationship work without coition?
- Do non-intimate relationships exist?
- What’s that thing you dislike that I keep doing?
- How would you like to see our relationship grow in intimacy?
- In what ways most you intensely experience intimacy and passion?
- What does it require to turn an ordinary relationship into a lifelong affair?
- What do I need to get your attention?
- In what way would you say we are opposites?
- What would you say will improve our relationship now?
- On a scale of 1(unhappy) to 10(ecstatic), how happy are you around Family, me, Others?
The questions below are humility test questions. This way, you can check if your lover is humble or proud by the response they give.
- When problems arise, between you and me, on a scale of 1(never) to 10(always). How often would you stay on the defensive, not justify your position, or advocate for your partner’s viewpoint?
- What are the qualities that make me unique to you?
- What is your biggest turn-off as an individual?
- Do you often remember people’s birthdays?
- Name two adjectives that best describe you.
- Have you ever done something you are sorry about?
- What is one thing you cannot do without?
- What is the one part of your childhood you miss the most?
- Do you feel you need some growing up, or are you mature?
- Do you love pets?
- Are there any pets you don’t like being called?
- Have you ever gone hunting before?
- What’s your preferred fragrance?
- Do you keep in remembrance the details?
- What’s your beauty routine?
- What’s your preferred beauty product?
- When have you ever felt the most beautiful?
- What future career do you plan to have?
- Are you ever afraid of failing?
- Would you say your current earnings are what you deserve?
- What particular aspect of your life are you the most confident about?
- What’s your survival strategy for stress?
- What are your thoughts on online dating?
- Have you ever been stood up before?
- What makes you laugh?
- Have you flirted with someone before?
- Will you get insecure if someone flirts with me?
- Are there limits to friendship?
- Have you ever been stranded before?
- Do you agree on living together before marriage?
- Have you had an abortion before?
- what are your thoughts on why many marriages today end in divorce?
- Is divorce an option for you?
- Do you ever hang out with friends?
- Have you tried doing a personality test before?
- How did your previous relationship come to an end?
- Is foreplay important before lovemaking for you?
- Are you happy with this relationship?
- Can you remember your first lovemaking experience?
- Have you ever faked having a peak of pleasure?
- What’s your take on escorting?
- Are you an extravagant spender?
- What are your thoughts on being a stay-at-home mum?
- Have you ever made out with a stranger?
- Would you say you are romantic?
- What is the most romantic present you have ever received?
- Can you make love on your first date?
- Can you agree to a menage a trois?
- Do you have any health challenges currently?
- Do you offer help to total strangers?
- Have you ever been stuck in an elevator?
- Do you have a preferred phone brand?
- What’s one temptation you find it hard to resist?
- Do you have any sweet tooth?
- Do you give yourself any treats sometimes?
- What will you spend your money on?
- At what age did you have the most memorable birthday celebration?
- What have you ever been accused of that you are innocent of?
- Do you make out time off to go on vacation?
- What is your best vacation ever?
- If you could visit one exotic place, which place would that be?
- What will you love to change about yourself?
- Do you have any kids from previous relationships?
- Who makes better bosses, men or women?
- Would you say you are a worrier?
- What are the top 3 things you worry about the most?
- Do you find it difficult to let go when hurt?
- Do you have any phobias?
- How will you describe a perfect relationship?
- Do you use curse words?
- Have you experienced any form of abuse before?
- What’s your thought on tattoos?
- Could you mind learning a new language?
- Do you love sports?
- What would you consider to be a dull environment?
- How do you think we can best support each other?
There are not just 170 Questions To Ask Your Spouse To Spice Things Up. There is a whole lot more to ask. Please add yours to the list. Let me see yours in the comment section below.
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