In today’s post, I will be helping couples ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get to connecting, communicating and committing to writing and living out their own unique happily ever after love story.
Today I’m going to be talking about five things you can do to rekindle the love in your marriage if it’s gone cold.
So without any further ado let’s get into it.
5 Ways To Rekindle Passion And Excitement With Your Partner In 24Hr
1. Prioritize Your Marriage
My first tip is about deciding to make your marriage a priority, that means that you prioritize your marriage relationship above any other relationship besides your relationship with yourself and with a higher being.
So if you’re religious it would be your relationship with God first, your relationship with your spouse second, your relationship with your kids third and then all your other relationships, friendships and priorities come in order after those top three.
So most people I talk to understand this on a very surface level, but if I ask them to account for their time and energy those stats would tell a very different story.
Most of us are too wrapped up in other things that may seem important or urgent at the time and leave their most important relationships for last.
So for my first tip, it’s to actually spend time, energy and financial resources on your marriage.”
2. Daily Connections
“The second thing you need to rekindle the passion in your marriage is daily connections.
This means getting together with your spouse for at least 20 minutes, out of the 1440 minutes that we all have during the day.
Now here’s the funny thing about time: it doesn’t matter how strong, connected, wealthy or powerful you are, we all have the exact same amount of time.
So if you’re truly committed to your marriage you’ll spend at least 20 minutes with your spouse each day learning about their inner world.
This means asking deep question like what are some things you’re learning today what are you excited about how can I make your life easier for you and then sincerely listening for their answers
Even if you spend all day long together with your partner you’re still experiencing the world in a very different way and learning these things about each other is a lifelong process.
Once you’ve connected emotionally in these daily connections, it’s time for some physical representation of your connection.
So, whether that’s a short peck, a hug, a shoulder rub or just squeezing each other’s hands and looking into each other’s eyes.
Emotional connection should be followed by something physical signaling that you’re on the same team. So that’s tip two; “daily connections.”
3. Weekly Non-Negotiable Date Nights
The third thing you need to rekindle and keep your marriage hot is weekly non-negotiable date nights.
Meaning that every single week you make a commitment to spend at least three hours with your significant other doing something fun and enjoyable that creates memories and bonds you together.
During these dates you don’t talk about the kids or the business or your finances or anything else stressful.
You focus all of your attention on your loved one. This includes putting that cell phone on silent so you can give each other your undivided attention.
I also suggest that you end date night with sexu@l intimacy this way it serves to bring you closer emotionally, physically and sexu@lly.
So that’s tip number three weekly date nights, do not miss them.
4. Embrace Healthy Conflict
The fourth thing you need to keep passion alive in your marriage is to get comfortable with conflict.
Most couples are so uncomfortable with conflict because they don’t know how to manage it well.
So they create all kinds of ways to avoid it at all costs. This causes a marriage to grow cold.
Because so often, one or both partners begin to withdraw from the relationship and stop sharing their true feelings in order to keep the peace.
But you didn’t marry your clone so of course there’s going to be conflict including differences of opinion, preference, worldview and desire.
These differences are what keep the passion in your marriage alive because it allows each partner to be an individual who is constantly growing, changing, learning and sharing themselves with another person.
It’s not only normal and healthy to have conflict but it’s also how you innovate and grow and gain New Perspectives.
So tip number four is to embrace conflict and learn how it can work for you in your relationship.”
5. Commit to Lifelong Growth
And the fifth thing you need to keep passion and excitement strong is the commitment to continually learning, growing and developing yourselves individually, so you can feel confident sharing yourself with your partner.
That means dedicating yourself to learning about yourself, about relationships, about conflict resolution and all the skills required to create a healthy, thriving and passionate relationship.
This includes developing talents, hobbies and passions as well as learning about your own limitations and triggers.
One of the best questions you can ask your spouse is what is it like to be in a relationship with me?
So much can be learned by honestly considering the answers to this question, so that’s tip number five: always be learning and developing.
Closing Statement
When you do these five things consistently you’re not only keeping passion and excitement alive in your marriage but you’re also modeling for your children how to create a beautiful healthy marriage relationship.
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