Hey, my friends, in today’s post I am going to talk with you about seven things that will ruin your marriage. If you practice these seven things, it will instantly kllls every single vibe you’ve ever had with your husband or your wife. So, please pay attention, because I’m about to dive deep into the facts. So, here I come.
5 Sneaky Things That Can Ruin A Marriage
1. Fault-Finding
Alright, the first thing that will kllls your marriage is fault-finding. Look, every single person in this world that is married has a tendency to look at their spouse and tell them exactly what they’re doing wrong.
And the reason why we have this tendency to tell our spouse this is because we want them to improve. However, if we do it in the wrong way, we won’t get any results.
The truth is that you have to be able to tell your spouse what to improve on without finding fault with them.
In other words, you have to find out what the problem is and resolve the issue in a way that helps them feel better about making a change.
2. Unresolved Conflicts
The second thing that will kllls your marriage is unresolved conflicts. This is one of the biggest reasons why most people divorce: they haven’t been able to sit down and talk with their spouse about the inner conflicts that they have.
Now, when you’re married, there’s so many conflicts that might arise. Maybe you might have sexu@l conflict; perhaps it’s financial conflict; it might even be conflict with the family, conflict with fitness, conflict with eating.
There’s so many things to be improved upon, and if you don’t talk to your spouse about the conflicts that you have, then they will never get resolved.
In a lot of marriages, people deal with conflict in negative ways: they slam doors, they make threats, they do things to their spouse that makes them feel horrible.
But what I want you to do rather is to make a list of the top five conflicts that you have right now and go and talk with your spouse.
I guarantee you, your spouse will look at you differently. Instead of you avoiding the problem, you will be addressing it.
You see, most people go about their lives without resolving their problems. They just go about their life; they never ask questions; and they just go to their corners.
That’s how most people carry on with their marriage, but that’s not a happy marriage at all. You should never be separated, holding grudges for hours and hours, wondering what the other person thinks, or even not caring about what the other person thinks until you feel guilty about it.
So many people limit themselves because they don’t feel like their spouse will understand them but rather, it’s not that your spouse won’t understand you; it’s that you haven’t taken the time to think about the problem and communicate it with them effectively so that you can resolve it.
3. Threats
There’s a lot of people who run their relationships based on threats. They might threaten a withdrawal of blessings; they might threaten removal of se*x; they might even threaten the worst thing of all time: divorce.
There’s a lot of people who think that they can threaten their way to success in marriage, but that’s not true, it won’t work in the long term.
Even though your spouse might be able to make some temporary changes, they’re always going to feel scared, live in fear and always feel uneasy around you.
4. Blaming
The fourth thing that will always kill your marriage is blaming. Look, there’s so many people that run their relationship just based on blaming their spouse. They’ll say things like, “If you didn’t do X, Y, and Z, we never would have been in this situation.”
For example, “If we didn’t move to this place because of your job, we never would have been in this financial predicament.”
And if you’re that kind of person that feels that you need to blame your spouse because of the problems that you have in your life, then you need to make an instant change right now.
What you should do instead is to stop complaining and start explaining. Instead of focusing on all the things they did wrong, start focusing on all the things they did strong.
When you focus on the positive, then the negative starts to disappear. You see, nagging and complaining and worrying about things you cannot change can part the best of friends or couples.
5. Rejection
There’s a lot of people who hurt their spouse unknowingly because they reject them all the time. I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve put up a wall against their husband and against their wife, and they always say no to their spouse on certain things.
If you ask them to take a walk, they say no. If you ask them to go out for an adventure, they say no. If you ask them for money, they say no. Or maybe you even ask them for a specific sexu@l act that you always wanted, that you always fantasize about, and they always say no. And they say no without any valid reason.
So, what I want you to know is that if your spouse have been asking you for something that they want you to do, but you’ve always been saying no to them, try understanding what it is that they’re even asking for. Don’t just give them a hard no and reject them.
Decide to do something different within your relationship and I guarantee you that there’s one thing that your spouse has been asking you to do for so long that you’ve been saying no to, that now, if you say yes, it will change everything.
I want you to go ahead and try this out with your spouse. Think about that one thing you always said no to, and then go up to them and ask them, “You know that one thing you’ve been asking me about? I want to do it this time.”
Their face is going to light up; they’re going to change; they’re never going to be the same, especially if you know that what they want is something that you can do now. That will be a delightful experience.
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